Order your copy of The Let Them Theory 👉 https://melrob.co/let-them-theory 👈 The #1 Best Selling Book of 2025 🔥 Discover how much power you truly have. It all begins with two simple words. Let Them. — In today’s episode, you’re getting the blueprint for developing your communication skills. What you learn will boost your influence and make you more confident. You and Mel are both learning from trial lawyer Jefferson Fisher, who is known for his straightforward advice, tips, and tricks on how to communicate better. Jefferson is teaching you proven techniques to express yourself clearly, handle disrespect, and know what to say when someone challenges you, even in high-pressure situations. He will also teach you: Why miscommunication happens (and how to avoid it) How you can use strategic communication to get what you want (without manipulation) And the 3 ways to express your thoughts so that everyone will understand you If you’ve ever felt unsure of how to get your point across or wished you could be more confident when speaking, this episode is packed with tools you can use immediately to transform how you engage with others. For more resources related to today’s episode, click here for the podcast episode page: http://www.melrobbins.com/podcasts/episode-216 Follow The Mel Robbins Podcast on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themelrobbinspodcast I’m just your friend. I am not a licensed therapist, and this podcast is NOT intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional. Got it? Good. I’ll see you in the next episode. In this episode: 0:30 Introduction 0:48 Do this instead of blaming your bad behavior on your stress. 2:45 What you say to others matters in a way you never thought of. 5:14 Ask yourself these questions to figure out what’s important to you. 7:42 What most of us get wrong about arguments. 9:55 The two BEST questions to ask before an argument starts. 13:55 Use this script when you’re about to have a hard conversation. 17:48 Mel’s favorite line that will boost anyone about to hear bad news. 21:24 How do you talk to someone you don’t like? 23:05 The surprising response to disarm a mean comment. 28:10 How to call out disrespect in other people you’re with. 31:00 Say this when you’re trying to get others to do something different. 35:01 How to be more confident when you have to speak in public. 38:11 Say this when you’re walking into a large group of people. 39:53 Instead of asking, How are you?, try asking this instead. 44:15 Conversational goals vs. conversational values. 50:48 The one question to ask yourself so that you live your best life. 54:57 Make this change to communicate better with your family. — Follow Mel: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/melrobbins/ TikTok: http://tiktok.com/@UCk2U-Oqn7RXf-ydPqfSxG5g Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/melrobbins LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/melrobbins Website: http://melrobbins.com — Sign up for Mel’s newsletter: https://melrob.co/sign-up-newsletter A note from Mel to you, twice a week, sharing simple, practical ways to build the life you want. — Subscribe to Mel’s channel here: https://www.youtube.com/melrobbins?sub_confirmation=1 — Listen to The Mel Robbins Podcast 🎧 New episodes drop every Monday & Thursday! https://melrob.co/spotify https://melrob.co/applepodcasts https://melrob.co/amazonmusic — Looking for Mel’s books on Amazon? Find them here: The Let Them Theory: https://amzn.to/3IQ21Oe The Let Them Theory Audiobook: https://amzn.to/413SObp The High 5 Habit: https://amzn.to/3fMvfPQ The 5 Second Rule: https://amzn.to/4l54fah